Blueprint | November 10, 2023
Type Two: Common romantic pairings

What are the most common romantic pairings for Enneagram type 2s?

Female 2s most often marrying 6s, 8s, 1s, and 5s, and Male 2s most often marrying 1s, 4s, 3s, and 6s (in that order)

Certain type 2 pairings are more common than others, though any type combination can occur and thrive. The marriage data we compiled and analyzed was broken down by gender, with Female 2s most often marrying 6s, 8s, 1s, and 5s, and Male 2s most often marrying 1s, 4s, 3s, and 6s (in that order).

When we remove gender as a variable, 2s overall most often marry 1s, 6s, and 8s, and least often marry 9s, 7s, and 2s. All type combinations bring shared and unique elements to the relationship!

Most common:

2s and 1s share altruism, purpose, duty. 2s bring warmth, affection, acceptance, while 1s bring logic-orientation, stability, conscientiousness. 2s and 6s share compassion, duty, conscientiousness. 2s bring positivity, intimacy, action, while 6s bring realism, playfulness, vigilance. 2s and 8s share action, passion, impact. 2s bring nurture, thoughtfulness, compassion, while 8s bring protection, confidence, strength.


2s and 4s share creativity, sentimentality, passion. 2s bring sociability, practicality, affection, while 4s bring philosophy, subtlety, raw emotion. 2s and 3s share charm, sociability, vitality. 2s bring intimacy, encouragement, sensitivity, while 3s bring goal-orientation, confidence, adaptability. 2s and 5s share resourcefulness, acceptance, reliability. 2s bring emotion, sociability, initiative, while 5s bring objectivity, independence, solidity.

Least common:

2s and 9s share empathy, positivity, hospitality. 2s bring action, vitality, intimacy, while 9s bring idealism, steadiness, independence. 2s and 7s share vitality, optimism, activity. 2s bring compassion, acceptance, intimacy, while 7s bring curiosity, confidence, spontaneity. 2s and 2s share altruism, positivity, compassion. 2s bring conscientiousness, warmth, thoroughness, while other 2s bring charm, sociability, action.

Sources: "Are You My Type, Am I Yours?" by Elizabeth Wagele and Renee Baron,, and our own internal survey data.